Have you ever had someone call you an "un"? "UnAdoptable" is one of the most offensive and ignorant descriptions that a person can give a child who is without parents at no fault of their own.
What are people saying when they say this? They are putting a label on a human being/child for acting out in a manner that is not appealing. What they forget is that this is a person who was exposed to things no child should ever see or experience. An innocent child harmed physically, emotionally and many times sexually by the very ones that were supposed to protect and nurture them. The behavior and the manner in which they act out is as a result of their environment and experience and not as a result of their desire to be harmful to others or to push people away.
If you were always hungry and no one cared, you would hoard food too! If all you saw was your parents steal, you would think that was ok too! If anger is the only way you knew how to express yourself, you would have issues too! I think we need to put ourselves in a child shoes and really step back to see the root of the behavior before we label them "unAdoptable" and throw them to the wolves.
When we call children "unadoptable" we are calling them "unlovable", "unwanted" and "undesirable". I myself can attest to the love of God and His abundance of mercy. He forgives, loves, and leads us even when we have not done the right thing. How dare us take another one of His children and label them as if grace, mercy and love are not their's as well. I truly believe there is a way to reach any child or youth that is acting out and in need of a home. It takes the right person, at the right time with patience and unconditional love to see that they are all ADOPTABLE!